Ok, now then, you can speculate and plot and scheme all you like, you will get precisely nowhere and are doing things completely backwards...
1, UP TO A POINT, it is not what size supply you want, it is what size supply they are prepared to give you, as "network capacity" COULD be an issue.
2, Now, let's pretend that you COULD just say I want a such and such size supply. If it is within network capacity great! If not, and they have to "reinforce" the network, what it costs all depends.. They proportion the cost out. Say they had to install a new substation, or ten miles of new cable. IF you were the only person to benefit, then you would pay the whole cost. BUT, say the new transformer and ten miles of cable would be also used to supply the new estate of 1000 houses that are building up the road, then you would only pay 1/1000 of the cost.
3, For what you are doing, unless you want to use "DIY" toy welders etc, you need a proper three phase supply. Also, they WILL NOT give you a single phase supply bigger than about 80 or 100A end of.
4, You do not tell them what size supply you want, THEY TELL YOU what size you need and they are prepared to supply...
5. They all have a standard form that they want you to fill in. They will want to have details of ALL equipment you want to connect. They will especially want details of all motors, kW/hp, phases, DOL or star/delta, number of starts and stops per hour, how long will the thing be running for, between what hours.
Same for welders. Size, voltage, phases, welds per hour. They hate welders!!
They will also want you to give the rating of all of the above in kVA. It follows from this that you need a PROPER electrician to fill in the forms for you. HOWEVER, in your case, it might be best to just write down all the information in a letter, and explain that you are a one man business, and that only one machine will be used at any one time etc, or they will assume you have a full scale machine shop.
6, FORGET telephoning them, they will simply tell you to fill in a form. They will also NOT give you ANY advice at all, apart from; "you need an electrical engineer to work out what your demand will be" [both before [total connected load] and after diversity]
7, PLEASE do not let all the above put you off!!!! It is not half as bad as it sounds, they WANT you to have the supply after all!!
8, Do not listen to muppets in pubs as to what it costs. In most cases, FAR FAR less than you would expect.
9, Anyone that thinks that if they give you a price and you turn it down. next time it will be more is also a muppet. I know someone that wanted a supply and they were quoted £3000. When they said they they could not afford that, the DNO said; "Oh, ok, £2000 then!!!!!"
10, Biggest problem you got, is that it looks like you will need a new transformer up the pole. They are rather expensive.....
11, Did you know that the DNO have to publish a price list??? It might not mean much to you to be honest, but the others on here will be interested. They do worked examples too!! One is nine MILLION quid!!
Here is the link;
http://www.ukpowernetworks.co.uk/internet/asset/9d530978-7a14-4251-89a2-21f7a50a55bJ/UKPN-Common-Connection-Charging-Methodology-Statement-October-2012[pdf].pdf
12, The first thing you have to do then, is to get a PROPER electrician to work out the information that I have given in 5 above, [together with details of any other loads] then fill in the form or write a letter. The planners will do their number crunching, someone will do a site visit, and then they will give you a price..
So far as I know, UKPN can either do you a rough estimate, OR, if you want an exact price, they can do that too, but you are committed to having the supply. You will have to take this up with them.
Only bad news is that according to their price list a pole mounted transformer change is £7500, but you never know, they might have an old one. It is entirely up to whoever deals with it, so be nice to them!!!!
john...