Big apologies for getting my wires crossed! got hung up on the Digistat after tracing a cable through, so re started whole process again, fair play to you guys for keeping a clear mind whilst problem solving as it is not easy.
I have turned down the boiler temperature as suggested and it is currently working at a 1/4 on, does not give degrees or numbers just a line getting bigger!
I turned the pump down to medium to then set the central heating and water.
So Cylinder 1 test showed the water temperature at tap is a fairly constant 50C using the Drayton HTS3 thermostat.
With Cylinder 2 found the water was still coming out too hot and with the pump the shower was impossible, I swopped the thermostat over with Cylinder 1 as knew this one worked ok. The Valve actually turned off but with water too hot so turned thermostat down to its absolute minimum and still too hot.
Decided to buy another make of thermostat as was using 2 Drayton HTS3's, and bought a Center thermostat which has done the job! Have set it to minimum which is 40C and water out of the tap is 50C! so big relief there. Clearly better at the lower end! Not sure why we have such differences but it's what I have found in this case.
Now learning to balance radiators so have a more uniformed heat over the house, what is showing up which is how I believe we got into this mess in the first place, was in order to get more heat people turned up boiler and increased the pump to max, (probably why last pump stopped working!) The end bedroom which we use as b&b is very large and the radiator on full bore is not getting room temp above 17C, so my thinking is as we have one in hall we never use I am going to get plumber/heating engineer to take it out and put it in bedroom then can reduce lockshield down to suit, I think this will mean we can run the whole system at a lower temperature at boiler and maybe turn down to min setting on pump. This hopefully gives us leeway for when it gets colder!
I have discovered about a thermostatic mixing valve to correct the hot tap water temperature, to safeguard b&b guests I think we should get plumber to fit one for safety reasons. Any thoughts?
You have all been a huge help, a big thanks to all and if any of you are ever down this way look us up at Exmoor Owls and come fly a bird as my treat. In meantime know you being at end of the internet is a huge help especially to old buggers like me who cross their wires.