It all starts going wrong when kids go to school and schools don't allow competitive sports days.......... they don't get a chance to understand that failing is a possibility.
You're not wrong there, it all seems to be about being nice and not hurting anyone's feelings these days, they are brought up to believe failure will never happen. Same thing with Christmas, nowadays whatever a kid asks for they get, in our day you were lucky if you got anything you asked for, and if it was expensive you had no chance! I remember one guy who's son wanted an Action Man, remember them? There was the soldier, the sailor, the paratrooper, there were lots of different ones, well this kid opens his presents to find one is an empty box, "dad, what's this. it's empty" he asked, the bloke replied, "that son, is an Action Man deserter".
As he said it taught the kid to deal with disappointments! I remember my old fella telling me, "there's no second place son, only first loser", these days it's all this carp about you not winning but being as good as the winner. Well I'm sorry but that isn't true, while everyone may be good at something, if say you are no good at running then you ain't going to be any good as an Olympic sprinter, so deal with it, you may be good at maths, but that won't win you a gold in the 100 mtr sprint will it?
When I was a lad it was a harder world than today, "please sir, when I leave school I want to be an artist" , teacher would be brutally honest, "an artist lad, you can't even draw a straight line" the kid would look a bit fed up then, "tell you what son, you're quite good at woodwork, ever thought of being a joiner?"
Nowadays that same kid would run home and tell his parents that the nasty teacher has said he can't be an artist,the teacher would be disciplined and the kid would probably receive several grand compensation! That's what's wrong today, nobody tells it like it is anymore, there's kids leaving school who've spent so long being told they can do anything, and when they realise they can't it's a big shock to them.