Do you have any electrical certificates for any of the circuits..
e.g.
If you had a fuse-box replaced or a new circuit added an "Electrical Installation Certificate" should have been issued by the person doing the work..
If you have had an alteration / addition to an existing circuit then a "Minor Works Certificate" should have been issued by the person doing the work..
On these certificates there should be resistance values for the Live & Earth conductors, and the cable size used for the amended circuits...
from this you can calculate the cable length...
And if you know the circuit cable length / size of cable / load on cable..
You can calculate the volt-drop from tables in the regs that give the Millivolts per Amp per Metre for the common cable sizes..
These are some of the calculations you need to do if designing a new circuit from scratch to ensure you select the correct sized cables for your loads and volt-drop.
( It would appear that some parts of your installation may have been extended over the years beyond their initial design capacity..? )
Not that it helps much.. But I do think your problems are going to become more and more common at a lot of installations as everyone is encouraged to get electric cars!!
I have a regular customer who mentioned in conversation a few weeks ago that when they change their current diesel cars they will be looking to get an electric car charger fitted..
I was thinking.. oh err.. that's going to be tricky when their existing main fuse is 60A, and they are just on the borders of the countryside also with electric under-floor heating..
It may just tip the balance on their incoming cable!!
Back to your situation..
have you considered any solar power and/or local power storage to supplement your incoming supply..
I'm no expert.. (one of our members
@binky would have better advice)..
But if you have a fair bit of land.. and/or a few buildings..
I am guessing a few solar panels could be installed to meet a bit more of your electrical demand?
Guinness
ALSO..
how far away..
and how big are the neighbours properties..
i.e. what other demand is there on the supply network locally?