protecting the grid is important, and disconencting areas to prevent a failure is a good thing. but that's irrelevant here, its just something you've added
everyday, frequency changes as demand changes. something on TV millions are watching and advert break? chances are many will go put the kettle on. frequency will drop. if everyone gets an EV and plugs it in to charge when they get home,frequency will drop. will it drop enough for national grid to be concerned about and start disconnecting areas as you seem to have a fascination about? no likely (unless there are bigger problems like powerstations shutting down without warning). will it be an excuse to charge more for the electricity then since for those few minutes/hours there is more demand than supply? someone will get richer from it so yes